Dating for Single Dads.

by Owen Jones

Can a single Dad be a good father? Sure he can! But maybe a single man should also ask "What's your problem? Just because you're not divorced, doesn't mean that you're a better father". It's really such a pity that our society considers someone as a dead loss parent just because he's no longer married. There are a lot of  amazing single fathers out there and you can learn a lot from them.

Realizing the Situation... You have got to understand that children suffer greatly from having only one parent. It could be because they had angry parents, or because of separation anxiety or any number of things: it's tough for children whose parents are divorced, getting divorced, or who are single.

Preserving a relationship with the children require sacrifice. Usually, both mother and father have to be able to set aside their differences long enough to inspect the damage that they have both caused to their children. More often than not, parents get so engrossed with their emotional pain that they fail to notice that their children suffer even more than they do.

If you are a single parent this is very difficult. Dating for Dads and dating for mothers is the answer - don't rush into things, but children need two parents and when you're ready, you should get another partner.

Studies show that when two parents make a conscious effort to stay close to each other, then they have more successful and stable children. What more do you need to know? Children require two parents. Never think that dating for single dads is out of the question. In fact, it is important for the kids. You know it is, don't you?

A Formal Study: To emphasize the importance of a father's closeness to his children, the State University of Arizona conducted a study of college students whose parents were divorced. The researchers observed personality, emotional and mental maturity, health, and even interest in school and success. The researchers found facts that support the idea that whoever had primary custody, it is certain that children need access to adults of both sexes.

Results: The findings are very surprising. statistics quite clearly show that kids who have only one parent have healthier and more mature relationships than their parents and make a conscious effort of keeping their family together.

61% of the kids involved in the study asserted that their mum or whoever had primary custody, moved them at least an hours drive away from the other parent. One of the concerns expressed by the students was getting in the crossfire. When they stay with one parent, future financial help (like for college) lessened. Example, if they stayed with dad, mom gives less when college comes, and vice versa. In fact, the investigation showed that the 1 hour driving distance already had a negative effect on the children.

Emotional upheaval cannot really be prevented, but a closer inspection of the children showed that those whose parents stayed close to them had a better emotional disposition and a better mentally.

Results: so, in a nut-shell, the case study demonstrates that divorce does affect the kids. The way the parents treat each other and the distance they live apart does have a very significant impact that could tip the scales as to whether a child succeeds or not. It is difficult to make friends with an ex-wife after all that has transpired, but it will be even more difficult for you as a divorced or separated Dad, when you see your children suffer from the consequences of your decisions.

As a divorced father, it is it is up to you. You owe it to yourself and to your children to make first step to remaining close.