Female Body Language: Courtship

by Gail Jones

All mankind, all women, and all men, use some basic preening manoeuvres, like touching their hair, adjusting their clothing, placing their hands on their hips, pointing their body towards the male, prolonging an intimate gaze, making increased eye contact etc. All these signals tend to say that the woman is ready for some kind of non-physical relationship or maybe just a conversation. But there are some exceptions you this: for example, some people pull their   hair, which sometimes indicates previous child abuse, or physical abuse, since it is a nervous gesture.

Furthermore, women may demonstrate a need for attention by dilating their pupils and reddening their cheeks. Some other signals from a woman for such a relationship could be sideways glances, or looking into the mirror frequently, crossing and uncrossing of their legs in front of a man, caressing their thighs or calf or knee etc.

Another commonly seen gesture is the position of footwear. If a woman is sitting with a man and her footwear is delicately balanced on her toe then it indicates a higher level of comfort in his company.

Some of the other common gestures are:

Hip Rolling: This is one of the most commonly observable gestures. It has been exploited by models to gain attention on the ramp and in various advertisements, by movie stars and even by prostitutes to attract clients. This kind of act is supposedly done by a female to increase her sex appeal. If a man acts out such a body language gesture, it indicates that he may be gay.

Wet Lips Gesture: Many women wet their lips or put on a lot of lipstick to give them a wet appearance. This clearly gives a sexual invitation. Most prostitutes use this gesture to attract males or other clients. Still, this does not always represent a sexual invitation, since some females merely like to keep up their looks or else dress for work.

Head Toss: You can see this signal resorted to by almost every woman. In this gesture, the woman flicks her head to toss her hair back over her shoulders or away from the face. Even women with short hair use this gesture in front of men. It is a clear demonstration of their interest in that man for a kind of a relationship.

Legs: Sexually aggressive women can be often observed with their legs more apart than their more conservative counterparts. This kind of gesture can be observed even in the presence of a male.

Along with the above-mentioned gesture, there are other gestures that women make with their legs. The most prominent one being the gesture of leg crossing. One leg is tucked up under the other and the knee points towards the person with whom she is sitting: it indicates her interest in that person.

In this position, the woman may expose her thighs to steal the attention of the guy whom she finds interesting. The more desirous may intentionally uncover her thighs to give a clear-cut signal.

Another position, which indicates her relaxed state, is the way she plays with her footwear. Often a woman keeps playing with her shoe by pushing her foot in and out of it. Often women cross their legs in such a way that they are not too far apart but enough to attract the man's attention.

Although these are the most common gestures of most women, still none of them should be taken for gospel and one must apply some common sense and logic before approaching a female for any kind of relationship based on observing of the above-mentioned gestures of female body language.